Congratulations! You're going to get married! Or perhaps a close friend or even just an associate is. You've got your invite (or sent them out), and all of a sudden, it hits you. What should I wear? Should I wear a fancy suit? Men's fashion is pretty unpredictable today, how do I know whether the shirt will be appropriate? Must I dress up fancy? 

Relax gentlemen - for things are not as hectic as some people (perhaps the bride, perhaps even you, the groom) have made out to be. Yes, it is confusing at times, but with some help, you can look great.

First of all, we shall deal with the groom, the most important man at the event. For the love of all that is good and beautiful in this world, spend that extra money and get a suit that actually fits. Having a suit that is too big or small is a faux pas at the best of times. But imagine looking back at your wedding photos and seeing yourself in a suit that goes sailing over hands or that looks ready to burst. Do yourself a favour - that extra money spent on having a crisp, well fitted suit will make life much easier for you and your betrothed.

Second of all, understand the theme. So you and your fiance have decided to hire out the Opera House and are having a white tie event. Then you should really look at a tuxedo with tails (sans top hat perhaps), an overcoat, and a white tie - nothing short of that for a white tie event. Fortunately, most people won't have to worry about that at a wedding, so understanding a black tie or even a semi-formal event is essential: black tie is a tuxedo, and semi-formal have a little bit more leeway (although probably still keep it more traditional - a white suit can look amazing in summer, but that may not be weather or location appropriate, so don't forget that). For a look at some of the fanciest men's suits that would be wedding appropriate, have a look at our Essential or tuxedo ranges.

As the groom, since your choice of shirt is pretty much limited to white or off white/ivory men's dress shirts, your tie and pocket square (should you choose to wear the latter) should be the most independent thing you wear. A bow tie is always a good option - velvet or otherwise (depending on the circumstances naturally), as it brings class and sophistication that a regular neck tie doesn't have. That being said, a classy neck tie can look amazing, provided you know how to match colours (if your wedding has a theme, it would probably be a good idea to stick to it here). And make sure you can tie your own tie - a tacky clip on or pre-tied bow tie looks shockingly bad. So maybe have some practice before hand!

For those of you gentlemen who are guests, then you have a little more flexibility, but not much. Again, if this is to be a white tie event, even a black tie tux is not going to cut it, so find out beforehand what the event will be like (try calling the happy couple or someone close to the preparations if possible, if not then having a quick look at the venue). Remember that overdressing in this case can be just as bad as under-dressing - like women not wearing white, so men's suits should not be of a notably higher level than the groom's. 

The most important thing to remember as a guest is that you are not in the spotlight - the groom (and the bride) are. So don't draw attention to yourself by either overdressing or under-dressing. As the groom, spend that extra money and get a fitted suit - overall, you will look much better than in a rented tux - and understand the theme of the wedding so you can dress appropriately.

Congratulations to the lucky couple, and look classy gentlemen!

December 17, 2014 by Aidan Johnson